The Individual and Society: A Realistic Projection of Reality

Society’s Got Your Back, But Finding Yourself Is On You

Here’s the deal: society keeps you alive and thriving. You get water, food, electricity, and all the Netflix you can binge—without lifting a finger to grow crops or build power plants. That’s the societal trade-off. In return, it expects you to contribute.

But here’s where people get it twisted: society doesn’t owe you a roadmap to find yourself. That’s your job. Sure, society has rules, routines, and expectations, but they’re there to make sure we don’t devolve into chaos. They’re not designed to help you figure out what makes you tick.

Feeling lost? That’s normal. You’ve got to carve out space in this structured world to ask, Who am I? and What do I want? Society’s role is to keep the lights on and the wheels turning. Your role is to figure out what you bring to the table—and who you are while you’re doing it.

Bottom line: society keeps you alive, but it’s up to you to live fully. Don’t kill yourself searching for yourself—society will still be around when you’re gone. You’re only here for a short time, so be courageous. See reality, accept it, and live it up.

The Longer, Boring Version:

In a world where individuals are naturally inclined to work for themselves and fulfill their needs, society presents a complex web of rules and expectations to facilitate coexistence. These rules, passed down through families, schools, and societal institutions, are designed to manage the collision of individual needs. However, they come at a cost. While they enable order, they often suppress the individual's ability to understand and fulfill their own needs. This creates a paradox: individuals, lost in the collective noise of society, become unaware of themselves, leading to depression, anger, and a profound sense of alienation.

The Shaping of the Individual by Society

From birth, society begins to mold the individual. Parents structure routines for their children, schools enforce rigorous schedules, and media reinforces social behaviors. Every aspect of life is meticulously organized, leaving little room for an individual to think for themselves. This external structuring becomes so pervasive that the individual’s sense of self is gradually overshadowed by societal expectations.

The difficulty compounds as society strengthens its grip through technology, global media, and interconnectedness. Rarely is the individual left to pause, reflect, and discover their intrinsic needs. Instead, life becomes a series of prescribed actions, driven by the collective, rather than the self.

The Fragmentation of Identity

An individual exists within multiple groups: family, friends, regional affiliations, national identity, and even religious or ideological communities. These groups often pull the individual in different directions, each with its own set of expectations and norms. When seeking themselves, individuals shift between these groups, hoping to find a sense of belonging by trading one identity for another.

This process is rarely successful. Each group comes with its own pressures, leaving the individual to either suppress parts of themselves to conform or endlessly search for a better fit. Over time, this leads to fragmentation—a fractured self, split between conflicting identities and societal demands.

Suppression of Self-Discovery

The individual’s natural curiosity about themselves—their desires, ambitions, and essence—is often stifled by society. Structured routines and external expectations create an environment where introspection is not just difficult but actively discouraged. Asking fundamental questions, such as “Who am I?” and “What do I truly need?” becomes a rare luxury in the face of societal obligations.

The result is not depression and anger because of asking these questions, but because the individual couldn’t ask them at all. The inability to explore one’s true self creates a simmering conflict within, manifesting as dissatisfaction and resentment.

The Need to Escape

When societal pressures become overwhelming, individuals often feel an urgent need to escape. This escape takes many forms, but the underlying motivation is the same: a desire to break free from the restrictions imposed by their groups.

Shifting Groups: Some attempt to escape by seeking refuge in a new societal group. This shift often brings a sense of renewal, as individuals embrace a fresh identity with new norms and expectations. For example, leaving a traditional community for a more progressive one—or adopting a new cultural or ideological alignment—can feel liberating at first. But over time, the same pressures reemerge, as every group imposes its own expectations and constraints.

Chemicals as an Escape: Others turn inward, relying on substances like alcohol or drugs to detach from their realities. These provide temporary relief, offering a fleeting sense of freedom and control. However, this reliance often leads to further complications, amplifying feelings of isolation and helplessness.

Withdrawal: For some, the solution lies in complete disengagement—stepping away from societal networks to avoid the demands and conflicts of group dynamics.

No matter the method of escape, the effect is often the same: a brief reprieve followed by a return to the same fundamental struggles. Whether through group shifting, chemical reliance, or withdrawal, these escapes fail to address the deeper conflict between individual needs and societal expectations.

The Fragmentation of the Self

As individuals move between groups or rely on escapes, they often suppress parts of themselves that don’t align with their current context. Over time, this suppression can lead to a sense of fragmentation.

The root of the struggle lies not in asking deep, existential questions like:

Who am I, beyond these groups?

What part of me is truly mine, and what is borrowed or imposed?

Instead, the real challenge is that individuals often don't get the opportunity to ask these questions at all. The routines and structures of modern life leave little space for introspection, pushing individuals to live by external scripts rather than engaging in self-discovery.

This inability to question and understand oneself creates a buildup of internal conflict, leading to feelings of alienation, depression, and anger. Without a chance to explore their true needs or reconcile them with societal expectations, individuals remain caught in a cycle of conformity and dissatisfaction.

This projection of reality paints a picture of individuals caught in the machinery of a strong, ever-growing society. Suppressed by rules, overwhelmed by expectations, and fragmented by shifting identities, the individual struggles to find themselves. Yet, this is not a pessimistic view—it is simply the recognition of a problem. A solution, if it exists, lies in the hands of each reader. The first step is to see the reality clearly and allow space for the questions that society too often silences.